Making friends will improve your school experience
Are you shy? Do you find it hard to talk to someone new? If so, then beginning a new school—whether it is college or vocational school or career school—can be a lonely experience. There are so many faces you don’t recognize, and it can be hard to figure out where you will fit in.
With a few tricks and tips, meeting new friends doesn’t have to be hard. Try these tips to help you “break the ice.” Aim to talk to one new person per day, and by the end of the week, you may have a new friendship starting!
Tip 1: When you don’t know what to say, ask a question
Talking to a new person can be awkward, because it’s hard to know what to say to a complete stranger. But luckily, you already have something in common with your classmates—you go to the same school! So try to break the ice with a simple question like “How do you like this class so far?” or “Where did you go to high school?” or “What’s your favorite class?”
Tip 2: Give a compliment
A great ice breaker is one of the simplest. Just give a compliment. It can be as simple as “I love your shoes. Where did you get them?” People love to receive compliments, and are usually happy to start up a conversation once you break the ice. Compliments on social media are another great way to show you care about someone too.
Tip 3: Do something kind
If you show kindness to others, they are more likely to be kind right back to you. Start by holding doors for others, smiling at people you’d like to meet, and then when you’re ready, you can try starting a conversation with them.
Tip 4: Join a club or group
It can be hard to get to know your classmates during school, because you can’t talk much during class. Joining an activity that meets outside of classes can be the perfect way to meet new people.
Tip 5: Be a good listener
Friendships are two-way streets. If you want to be a good friend, it’s important to listen to what the other person is saying and respond to their concerns. After your first conversation, try to remember what they talked about, and follow up on those same topics the next time you talk.
Tip 6: Share something about you
While you don’t want to talk only about yourself, it’s still important to share a little bit about yourself, so that the person can get to know you too. Be ready to share a funny story about something that happened to you, or share what your hobbies and interests are. Or tell them about a favorite movie or show that you like.
Tip 7: Share a laugh
One of the quickest way to make friends is to share something funny. Laughing with someone else can really build a bond. Don’t try too hard to be funny—that usually comes off as desperate. But try to be light-hearted and share your goofy side as you make new friends.
Investing the time and energy into making a few friends will help you feel more comfortable at your school and enjoy your experience more. We hope these tips help you break out of your shell and socialize with your classmates. It will be worth it!
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