If you find yourself complaining and being negative, try these tips
The challenges of going to school or going to your job every day can sometimes get you down. Whether you are in high school, college, career school, or your first job in the workforce, you might find that you are complaining about your assignments, being negative about your teacher or your boss, or letting your performance slip. If this describes you, it may be time to take some steps toward improving your attitude. Try these tips.
1. Use positive words
Instead of “I can’t do this,” or “I hate doing this,” try to substitute more positive words. More positive wording might be: “This will be hard, but I can do it.” “I’m getting better at this every day.” “The sooner I get this finished, the sooner I can move on.”
2. Think about your friends’ attitudes
Are you hanging out with people who have negative attitudes? Do you have big gripe sessions where everyone complains? Do your friends gossip about others and put people down? Try to change this pattern so that the negative vibes don’t bring you down.
3. Make a list of things you are grateful for
Taking some time to feel grateful can improve your attitude. Make a list of the ways in which you are lucky. It might include your friends or family members, your good health, your house or apartment, or any other things in your life that are going well.
4. Think before you speak
Spend a whole day monitoring what you say. Is everything that comes out of your mouth something negative? If so, pause before you speak, and think a way to re-frame it in a positive light. This is especially important if you are prone to anger or outbursts. Always give yourself a moment to think and breathe, and this can help stop the outburst.
5. Make a list of what you have learned
Whether in school or work, you are constantly learning. Make a list of key concepts and skills you have learned. The work you are doing is building your expertise and giving you something to be proud of! Take time to congratulate yourself and feel good about your accomplishments.
6. Find the good in everyone
If you find yourself being too harsh or judgmental on other people, take a step back. All of us have our share of positive and negative traits. Try looking for the positive traits in your classmates or co-workers, and enjoy them for who they are.
7. Do good deeds
Sometimes the smallest favors can reap the best rewards. Hold the door for someone. Let a driver in your lane when they are stuck in traffic. Compliment a classmate on their clothing or hair. Text a positive message to a friend. “Doing good” can often make you feel good, and that’s the first step to developing a positive attitude.
Smiling is a great way to communicate to others that you are open and positive. Smiling and laughing can improve your mood and help wash away some of the negative thoughts.
What do you think? Are you ready to improve your attitude? If you try these tips, you will be well on your way to a new you!
These tips are courtesy of the Harris School of Business. A career training school serving the Delaware Valley, the Harris School encourages our students to develop healthy attitudes toward learning and life. Our focus is healthcare training programs such as dental assistant, massage therapist, and medical assistant training. Look us up today!